Counselling and mental health services for Men
Does something just feel off in your life and you can’t explain it? Are you struggling with having fulfilling romantic or interpersonal relationships? Are you burdened by grief or loss, or by the end of a relationship? Are you in the process of a life transition that seems to be interfering with your happiness?
If you are experiencing any of these or other issues that are keeping you from living the life you want to live, you are not alone. While it may seem like no one talks about it, these issues are common, many men face them and Counselling Services Melbourne can help.
Dozens of studies over the last decade have indicated that men are far less likely to seek counselling than women, even though they experience similar life difficulties at the same or greater rates than women.
Inadvertently, and sometimes overtly, often in Australian society, society suggests that men who seek counselling are weak or less than, and should “harden up” and/or “suck it up.”
Our society regularly conveys the message that men should be unemotional or must hide their feelings. This line of thinking is dangerous. It can create a lot of shame for men, which may manifest in a variety of ways such as depression, anxiety, secrecy, infidelity, relationship issues, sexual issues, anger, substance abuse, etc.
The reality is we all have feelings and emotions and we all need healthy outlets to explore, understand, express and grow from these feelings and emotions.
Counselling in Melbourne men’s counsellors have worked extensively with men and understand the complexities of how difficult it can be to even walk through a counsellor’s door. It is imperative to set the framework for a trusting, beneficial, therapeutic relationship. This is our top priority in counselling.
Working with our registered men’s counsellors means you can safely explore any struggles you are experiencing, or have experienced, in a non-judgmental, warm setting, based in deep rapport, respect, and trust, to help you get on the path to living your best life.
Depression and Anxiety
Sometimes we don’t even realise depression and anxiety have set in. Sometimes we fixate on the past or have a lot of worries about the future. Maybe you work in a stressful work environment and each day is slowly chipping away at your happiness. Maybe things you were once passionate about now feel like a chore or no longer bring you joy.
Do you ever feel like you’re just not getting through or relating well to someone but you can’t quite understand why that is? Maybe this is a pattern in your life. Maybe it’s unique to one person. Regardless, we sometimes need an outside perspective and different tools to help us communicate more effectively.
Intimacy is a source of embarrassment for many – for a variety of reasons. Counselling in Melbourne can help break down that embarrassment and get to the heart of the matter. Do you find it difficult to have a romantic, intimate relationship? Do you find your relationships end quickly? Do you find you have trouble committing to a partner and/or remaining faithful to a partner? Maybe you’re experiencing struggles around sex in general.
Ending of a Relationship (Grief and Loss)
Even in the best of circumstances, ending any kind of relationship is usually very painful. Often, hopes and dreams feel a bit dashed and it can be daunting to determine where to go next. Sometimes we feel like nothing better will ever come along.
Other Life Transitions/Adjustment Difficulties
Maybe you’ve just moved, started a new job, or graduated from University. Life transitions can be really stressful, and it can seem as if everyone else is handling life much more flawlessly while you are floundering about. Maybe you feel like you’re not “adulting” well. Maybe you want to make a big change but you’re scared and not sure where to start.
Perhaps you identified as being a member of this community long ago, or maybe you are exploring your feelings around this community. Maybe you feel unable to be your true, authentic self. Maybe there’s a lot of embarrassment, shame and anger around this topic and you’re experiencing insensitive family/friend reactions to your coming out.
Despite the scant open discussion of these challenges in our society, it is common for men to have these experiences. Taking the first step and beginning counselling is a courageous way you can proactively take steps to improve your quality of life.
It can show up in a variety of ways and it can eat away at the very essence of who we are. It can create anger, sadness, resentment, secrecy and more, and can cause us to behave in ways we do not understand and do not like. To fully understand how shame can affect our state of mind, we invite you to review a TED talk by Brene Brown.
Men’s Counselling is nothing to be ashamed about
The role of men in relationships has changed dramatically over the last 10-years. As society has shifted, new demands have evolved about the role of men as fathers, husbands, their interaction with children and family, the rise of single parents and more…
If you’re feeling under duress, overwhelmed and just not coping with your day to day activities, men’s counselling can help you navigate these emotional ebbs and flows and will provide you with effective approaches, treatments and strategies to try and resolve any underlying issues to ensure outcomes are long lasting and are about you gaining an increased sense of clarity and wellbeing.
Counselling in Melbourne’s men’s counselling team of psychologists will provide counselling in a safe and caring non-judgmental environment. Your psychologist will utilise core evidence-based therapies such as; psychodynamic therapy, Imago Therapy, The Gottman Method, and Mindfulness-based techniques.
Men’s Counselling – Positive outcomes you can achieve!
- Explore mixed feelings
- Provide clarity and acknowledgement
- Teach effective communication strategies
- Alleviate distress
- Support more positive thinking
- Inspire effective problem-solving
- Improve relationships
- Boost self-confidence and self-esteem
- Explore the balance between personal goals and relationship priorities
If you’re unable to schedule an appointment with your counsellor and are feeling overwhelmed and would like immediate counselling and support, please visit MensLine Australia (1300 78 99 78).